that fine line

there's this line between being open and gossip.  now, some people say that more people gossip, but i am finding that more people are simply saying that they aren't gossiping so that they never really talk about anything of substance.  many christians use this as a way to be shallow.
i don't think that is what was intended.  it's pretty obvious in the bible that jesus talked about tough stuff and about people's choices right out in the open.  i think that whole "privacy" thing is simply a cover up for being religious without being meaningful.  no wonder non christians can't relate.  there's nothing to connect to.  without any problems or relational crap, all of us can look pretty sweet, but it's a sham. the sham is destroying the church.  the world needs real. people need to hear how hard life can be and how good god is in the midst of hard truth.
it's a fine line. i get that.  i just don't get why more people aren't laying out their stories.  real stories. seems like it would make the world a kinder place.
blessings.