I looked and saw, "half off denial services" on the inbox line in my email. I really had to look again. I mean, what are denial services? Does it teach you to deny? To live in denial? Ok, so I read it again and it said "dental", not "denial." Makes much more sense.
Of course, I spent a long time living in denial. Working at making something there that wasn't. Nurturing something that I hoped for and longed for instead of actually seeing and coming to terms with what was.
And now, I am coming out of that. Growing. Seeing truth and dealing with it. Not with anger and meanness, but with new choices.
I could have used some denial services over the years...to teach me what it is to walk in truth in a relationship. Not that I was being untruthful, but that the relationship itself was not the same as the relationship I was trying to have. I was in denial. I wanted it. I prayed for it. I worked for it. But finally....I had to see that it was a mirage.
No denying it. No calling it something fancy. It just didn't exist. Not the good, kind, hopeful, supporting, nurturing relationship that I wanted to give all for. It just wasn't there. There was a relationship...but it was quite different. And my behaving in a certain way wasn't changing it. So, I need to change my behavior. And I have.
Now...HE'S living in denial. Pretending it was there. Hmmm....a little ironic.
blessings.
Of course, I spent a long time living in denial. Working at making something there that wasn't. Nurturing something that I hoped for and longed for instead of actually seeing and coming to terms with what was.
And now, I am coming out of that. Growing. Seeing truth and dealing with it. Not with anger and meanness, but with new choices.
I could have used some denial services over the years...to teach me what it is to walk in truth in a relationship. Not that I was being untruthful, but that the relationship itself was not the same as the relationship I was trying to have. I was in denial. I wanted it. I prayed for it. I worked for it. But finally....I had to see that it was a mirage.
No denying it. No calling it something fancy. It just didn't exist. Not the good, kind, hopeful, supporting, nurturing relationship that I wanted to give all for. It just wasn't there. There was a relationship...but it was quite different. And my behaving in a certain way wasn't changing it. So, I need to change my behavior. And I have.
Now...HE'S living in denial. Pretending it was there. Hmmm....a little ironic.
blessings.
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