two way street

i am learning a lot of things about me.  today i realized that i have this quirky thing.  i am really giving.  i will give stuff or money away.  it's not a big deal.  stuff is stuff.  and yet.  i have struggled with some people who always want stuff from me.  borrow.  take.  want me to do.  want me to provide.  not because i mind doing it.  and for some people, it's a done deal.  but in some instances, it feels like people use.  i'm not even opposed to being used sometimes.  it's a part of life.  even a part of relationships.  even good relationships.  but when it's chronic.  when it keeps the other person from growing up.  when it is always a one way street.  when i can't rely on that person too.  at that moment, it feels wrong.  and i think that it is wrong.
relationships are two way.  not always equal.  rarely equal.  not tit for tat.  but a knowing.  a sense.  an assurance.  that you can rely on the other as they can rely on you.  hearing from people only when they want something is simply rude.  and while i realize that it happens, i am also realizing that i don't have to promote it.  i don't have to be hunky dory about it.
giving is awesome.  when it's giving.  but when it becomes an extraction.  or manipulation.  then it needs to be nipped.  quickly.  like ripping off a band aid.
blessings.