Forgiving vs. Enabling

I am learning lots of new things.  I am learning that I can forgive something while not continuing to enable a person to use it against me.  I can not be angry.  I can choose to let it go.  However, I can also, while still being forgiving, take away someone's power to hurt me and influence my life so much by not enabling him to keep on as it has been.  This takes a lot of prayer.  A lot of thinking.  A lot of genuine forgiveness.  But it's necessary.  To be sane.  To live freely.  To grow.  To breathe.
I have spent so many years thinking that forgiveness means just allowing.  Pushing it aside.  Not calling something what it is.  That's a mistake.  Huge.  It seems nice.  But it's not. 
So, I will live new.  Choose joy and peace.  Choose to do what I have to do to continue to breathe.  Not easy.  Possible.
If you've noticed that some posts end suddenly or that the editing is off....I've had very little time to write on my own.  Usually dashing it off.  Fearing getting caught.  Less now....but still antsy.  Getting a little better all of the time.  I keep practicing...because soon the Happy Heart Show will air!!!